A verse often misused is Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: And when he is old, he will not depart from it” (KJV). Many have been led to believe we can mold our children to be exactly what we want them to be—godly great students, kind, respectful, hardworking (basically perfect)—and when they grow up, even if they wandered a bit, they will be all those things again eventually—they will not depart. But the actual meaning of “the way he should go” is to train each child “according to his bend,” like how each tree tends to grow in a certain direction. Each child comes with a unique set of traits and is not meant to be a carbon copy of you. I had two children close together, and they were polar opposites. A few years later, a third one came along. I quickly learned…